What's Love Got to do With It

“If it’s wrong then why does it feel this good, and if it is right then why does it hurt this bad?”

How do you know when you know something?

This is a classic question. At what point, at what moment in time, at what instance do you realize that whatever it is that you think you KNOW you actually do know. Some say you KNOW something when you can teach it to someone else. And in theory that is a very good bench mark to gauge from, because if I KNOW how to ride a bike and I teach you how to ride one, I guess that means that I can officially without a doubt say that I KNOW how to ride a bike. But in the real world (the one that I live in at least) things are just never that clear cut.

How do you KNOW that what your feeling is real? How do you KNOW that he’s just not that into you? How do you KNOW you are in love? How do you KNOW when it is time to move on? How do you KNOW when you are in lust? How is it that you KNOW without a shadow of a doubt anything?

How do you know right from wrong? Ethics is such a big part of the business world, but no one can give a universally clear definition of what is ethically right or wrong. So how do you KNOW when you have crossed the right side and entered into that ever present wrong area?

Do you KNOW something because it feels right? But what is in a feeling? I mean, I wake up in the morning and feel like I can take on the world and within that same 24 hours I feel completely defeated and broken by life’s ups and downs and realize that I don’t really know anything. I mean, I feel a million different ways about the same person everyday, so how do I KNOW which one of those feelings is real?

I guess the point is about opportunity cost, the things that you give up when you make a decision. How do you KNOW what is the right decision to make? How do you KNOW what job you should take? How do you KNOW that you’ve made the right decision? I mean sure, there is some point in the future where you can look back on a decision that you’ve made and in hindsight say to yourself “I KNOW that was the right decision.” I mean I do it all the time. I look back on some of my decisions and I say to myself and to anyone else who will listen that I made the right decision just based on a positive outcome. But who is to say that another decision would have not had a greater outcome for me in my life.

Back to my original question, of how do you KNOW when you KNOW something? I guess the emotional side of this conversation is to explore how you KNOW what your feeling is really how you feel? Confused…well welcome to my world. At this point I don’t even know my left from my right and I find myself questioning every thing that I feel and do. So maybe I guess I don’t KNOW much and maybe I never will……

And I think my real point here is that the harder part is not figuring out what you do or don’t KNOW but realizing that the real fear comes from not KNOWing….not knowing whether or not your decisions were the right ones. Not KNOWing whether or not it is love or lust. Not knowing whether or not this is wrong or right….because if it’s wrong then why does it feel this good, and if it is right then why does it hurt this bad.

Not KNOWing is harder…..Not KNOWing is definitely harder